And it's done

 And there is nothing else we can do. 

The parole hearing was yesterday and it went about as well as could be expected, I guess. I don't know what we expected. 

How it worked. 

We had a time to call in and speak in support of M. It was all done via call conferencing because of Covid. Once we called they made sure everyone was in on the call and then asked if we had anything to say, we had 30 minutes. R had prepared talking points based on what I knew we needed to touch on. He did most of the speaking fortunately. 

The moderator actually commented that we had done our research. 

After we spoke they had the opportunity to ask questions. Only one person had questions as well as the moderator. (That was not what he was called I just don't remember) M had put that we would employ him he returns home in his parole plan. They did not like that. We are photographers and they were concerned that he might be around children. (Whatever) We also had in there that we live in an area with a high concentration of warehouses he could be employed at. As well as friends in construction who have already said they would put him to work. 

I get that they don't want him in a situation that could tempt him. But thinking he is going to pick up a camera at a wedding and start taking pictures of little kids while he is surrounded by a hundred people is just crazy. And they want him to reintegrate with society. They can't expect him to never be around kids (supervised of course). This concern seemed overly dramatic.

We had been told that we needed to get him a therapist that would agree to work with him. I found one, only to be told by the moderator that the parole office has their own therapists they will want him to work with. 

Overall I have no idea what they will decide. I think we did well. We should know in a couple of weeks.

There is a weight that has been lifted from us though. There is nothing else we can do. He either comes home in this Spring or next. And it is out of our hands. There is relief in that.

Parole Hearing

 Tomorrow 

Well tomorrow is Ms last chance to come home early. 

The official parole hearing. The one that matters. The one in DC. 

We call in and speak our piece. To try to convince them that M would be better off at home. Which to us seems totally logical and well duh of course he would be better off at home. But to them he is a terrible person who did horrible things and should be kept locked away as long as possible. 

Yeah I know. They may not really think that. But it seems most people do. 

I am scared. We really have no idea what we are supposed to say. If we say the right things he gets to come home in May. If not it will be next May. 

We are all nervous. 

My father in law has started buying him tools to start a wood working business. This man who was never around for his own son. Who did not show up for our wedding. The one who can only spare one day when we come visit. Is being so incredibly supportive of M. While Rs own brother ,Ms uncle, is having second thoughts, his father is sending tools to help him succeed. 

I just can't. 

New Year

Well 2021 has certainly started off with a bang! 

A worldwide pandemic and riots at the capitol building. It is all scary. We sit in disbelief and watch the chaos happening. The censorship that has begun with the banning of the president from Twitter and Apple and Google removing Parlor from their app stores. 

At first I was thrilled that Trump had been removed from Twitter until I realized what this means. Or rather a friend from another part of the world commented that he never thought the US would move towards socialism and more censorship. And he's right. 

I do believe those who rioted and caused damage should be prosecuted. I also believe after watching Trumps speech that morning that he encouraged it. But I don't think it took too much to encourage it. 

Protests are a way of getting a message across. There has been a lot of protesting in the past few years. The problem is when protests turn to riots. The initial message gets lost when death and destruction take over. No one wants to support a cause when all you see is destruction, even if the cause is worthy. 

We are at a turning point in our country. One where we move towards heavier government control and censorship of those who do not agree with the "majority". 

We argue about "Free" healthcare and college education. While we all know that it is not really free. Nothing is ever really free. But the idea of it is a great selling point. The idea of not paying to go see a doctor is very appealing. Who wouldn't love that! But do we really want our government to be in charge of that? I am not sure I want to trust them with my health. 

Our country is so incredibly divided. We watch as the extremes of the left and right scream and yell and drown out the logical speech. We wish for some middle ground but the extremes are so incredibly vocal that it makes it impossible for anyone else to be heard. 

It is time for the middle ground, the logical speakers to push back against the extremes. 

OK time to get off my soapbox.