Our Christmas will be a lot smaller this year. I enjoyed having a large family while I had it, but I am fine with a small family, it's what I grew up with.
Our SIL has gone and called the rest of the family to tell them about M. They knew about him but she found his appeal papers and they go into detail without context or explanation. So we will be staying home this year.
She also found out where he works. His company accepts him. They did a background check and he actually told them before they hired him. But she swears he works too close to where they live and that M is somehow stalking their daughter. He does not even know where they live! If she causes him to lose his job, WE will go nuclear. I don't know if she knows about the girlfriend but I suspect if she does we can expect her to try to ruin that.
There is a demon sitting on that woman. What kind of person does this?
Sometimes it takes something like this to alert us to the reality that some people just need to be cut out of our lives. I had a aunt like this. I had been avoiding her because she could be difficult (putting it mildly), but I decided to get her a nice Christmas gift and go and see her. I called and she began to attack me. I told her I was just calling to wish her a Happy Christmas, I didn't get around to mentioning the gift. She then went on a tangent. "Did I ask you to call? Did I ask you to call?" I could not think of anything to say. She ended with: "Goodbye Mendy." I never talked to her again, and my life was better for it. I did not go to her furneral either because if you are not getting along with people in life, no point in pretending in death.
ReplyDeleteI wish for you and your family the very best Christmas. After all that all of you have been through (including your son M) you deserve it. Don't let any toxic person ruin it for you. Take care.
I feel bad because it is family. But I also don't think family should treat you in this way. Family is supposed to stick by you, not attack.
DeleteI really only care at this point for my inlaws. I would like them to be able to see the grandkids. Our kids are adults and they understand, his are little and don't. So hopefully they will be forgiven and allowed to see the kids.
Beyond that, I am at peace. I will not let them ruin our Christmas. I am done with them. We will have our small Christmas at home with our kids and they are actually thrilled about it. I hope and pray your Christmas is wonderful and Blessed!